Doctor DILF podcast launches for Pride Month!

Doctor DILF and Doctor DILF: Extra Length, the health podcasts for older gay and bisexual men launch on Podbean and Apple Podcasts for Pride Month 2026!

After months of hard work, talking with an array of experts, chatting with mates, scheduling, planning, and learning new skills, Doctor DILF: the health podcast for older gay and bisexual men is finally here! Phew! And it’s only now I’ve reached the finish line, do I realise it’s actually the start of a whole new chapter…!

I’m Dr. Simon Fox, a doctor of public health, and a specialist in LGBTQ+ healthy aging. What seems like a lifetime ago now, I had the idea of converting my doctorate into a podcast, bringing public health in an accessible form to the people who I have spent years studying, partying with, and laughing with… gay and bisexual men.

Well, I say gay and bisexual men… Doctor DILF is for anyone who identifies as a man. In this increasingly strange world of ours, it’s important to be as inclusive, warm, and friendly as possible. Even if you don’t identify as a man - welcome aboard anyway! The more the merrier!

Every week for the next few weeks, Doctor DILF will bring you experts to strip back the myths and misinformation of our health and to bring out the facts that matter to us. These aren’t stodgy overly-long interviews. They’re friendly, relaxed and fun chats, just long enough for your run or workout or lunch break. That’s what Doctor DILF is designed to be - hearing voices and advice tailored for your ears and your life.

Doctor DILF also has a brother podcast - Doctor DILF: Extra Length! Each episode, a regular panel of three older gay men chew the fat about the topic of the week. It’s candid, revealing, witty, and very often NSFW. Doctor DILF: Extra Length came about through having identified the need for older gay male voices as a counterpoint to the experts. Think of him as the spicy sibling of the pair, spilling the tea and having a laugh. The idea behind this is to provide a sort of triangulation for you, the listeners, creating a three-way conversation between the experts, the panellists and you, joining in the conversation using the #DoctorDILF hashtag on social media. All I ask is that you respect one another. We won’t all agree and that’s OK too.

That’s not to say that it’s all a laugh. The podcasts do have content and food for thought that may be, at times, challenging. That’s because life is often challenging, as we all damn well know. I’m not going to treat you all like idiots by glossing over the difficult bits because you’re intelligent human beings who deserve better. We all deserve better. However, I do provide trigger warnings wherever possible, so keep an eye out for them on the show notes and an ear out for them in the episodes themselves. I also regularly signpost you to organisations who may be able to help if you’re having a hard time.

Doctor DILF has evolved naturally, and will continue to evolve. This website will continue to evolve over time too. I didn’t get everything done I wanted to get done, but that’s life. Bear with me. Likewise bear with me regarding techie things - I’m learning fast!

Doctor DILF will evolve through you. Doctor DILF is about you, for you, by you. If you think of a subject you want covered, contact me via this website or on social media. Again, please be kind and respectful. You can find the podcast on BlueSky under @DoctorDILF.

I’d like to take this opportunity to say a huge thank you to all the contributors, all the well-wishers, everyone who suggested things, and all those who just kept me going. The incredible response convinced me of the need for this podcast and keeps me going. I have great plans for Doctor DILF and I’m already formulating ideas for Series 2!

Lastly, have a safe and very wonderful Pride Month. We are all better sticking together, now more so than ever. Share the love!

As I say every episode, be good to each other and just keep talking.

With love,

Simon x

Doctor DILF Series One Trailer Video

Doctor DILF Series One Trailer Video available on the official Doctor DILF YouTube channel Doctor DILF - YouTube

Doctor DILF: Series One Schedule

Doctor DILF: Series One is now in the can!

Doctor DILF: Series One has been recorded, edited, and generally bashed into shape, and now it is ready for your ears. I am tremendously excited for everyone to hear this as a lot of hard work has gone into this production.

I’d like to give a huge thank you to the wonderful guests across the series who gave their time and effort in contributing to the series so that you can hear them answering your questions about your health. That’s Joe, Scott, Mike, David, and Andy. I salute you all.

I will soon be on the hunt for more experts, so keep those health questions coming for Series Two!

I’d also like to thank James and John, the regular Doctor DILF: Extra Length Series One panellists for their own time and effort, and for being their erudite and witty selves throughout.

Doctor DILF and Doctor DILF: Extra Length will be released on Podbean according to the schedule below. An episode of Doctor DILF and an episode of Doctor DILF: Extra Length will be released per week, bar the final week for the bonus episode about America which doesn’t have accompanying extra length. Every episode comes with signposts to relevant organisations.

Don’t forget, you can join in the conversation using the #DoctorDILF hashtag on your chosen social media platforms or by contacting the show on this website.

There will be a Doctor DILF: Series Two, so keep those questions about your health coming in!

Wednesday, 03/06/2026

Doctor DILF Series 1, Episode 1: Physical Health

Dr. Simon Fox chats with personal trainer Joe Langley about joining the gym as an older man, hiring a personal trainer, choosing a gym, and the motivations behind getting fitter. Simon then chats with counsellor Scott McKellar about the mental health side of physical exercise, and what this may mean for older gay men.

Doctor DILF: Extra Length Series 1, Episode 1: Physical Health

Dr. Simon Fox is joined by actor John Rayment and diversity expert James Winstanley to chat about being an older gay man at the gym, body image, comparing ourselves to others, bodily changes as we age, and losing weight.

Wednesday, 10/06/2026

Doctor DILF Series 1, Episode 2: Mental Health

Dr. Simon Fox talks with counsellor Scott McKellar, who explains what cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is, coming to terms with ourselves later in life, the impact of social media on our mental health, being kind to ourselves, and our social lives.

Doctor DILF: Extra Length Series 1, Episode 2: Mental Health

Simon is joined by actor John Rayment and diversity expert James Winstanley to have a natter about our mental health in a tempestuous global climate, social media, looking after your own mental health, grief, inappropriate questions from doctors… and gays in soap operas!

Wednesday, 17/06/2026

Doctor DILF Series 1, Episode 3: Dementia and Caring

Simon chats with the award-winning Mike Parish of the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group about caring for his husband who had dementia, hospital appointments, medical practitioner assumptions, care homes, physical and verbal discrimination in public, and the work of the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group.

Doctor DILF: Extra Length Series 1, Episode 3: Friends and Community

Simon, James, and John discuss the nature of friendship, social groups, making friends in the early days of the internet, Section 28, coming out to your parents, the benefits of chosen families and the LGBTQ+ community … and Viking cremations!

Wednesday, 24/06/2026

Doctor DILF Series 1, Episode 4: HIV Services and PrEP in the UK

Part One of a two-part special, comparing HIV services and access to PrEP in the UK and the USA. Simon chats with HIV specialist nurse David Freeman Powell about his career, NHS HIV services in the UK, PrEP, the patient journey through HIV services, and sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Doctor DILF: Extra Length Series 1, Episode 4: Sex and dating

Simon, James, and John have a chinwag about dating apps and people who don’t read profiles, strange one-night-stands, experimentation and kinks, dark rooms, Gran Canaria, sex as you age, and sexual mishaps…

Wednesday, 01/07/2026

Doctor DILF Series 1, Episode 5: HIV Services and PrEP injectables in the USA

Part Two of a two-part special, comparing HIV services and access to PrEP in the UK and the USA. Simon talks with sexual health pharmacist Andy from Texas, America, and learns all about access to HIV services in an insurance-based health system, the role of pharmacy in PrEP provision, and the new PrEP injectables.

Halfway there…

Doctor DILF Series One is halfway there in its production. Four episodes are in the can and there are four to go (with the possibility of a ninth episode, but we’ll see). It’s been a very steep learning curve, but I am proud of what we have achieved. I say “we” because, as with all good projects, it is a team effort.

I’ll give you an example. I’ve just listened to the first episode of Doctor DILF: Extra Length for the fourth or fifth time. Not to quietly pick holes in my own rookie production skills but just to listen and just to nod along in recognition and to laugh. James is a seasoned orator and John’s voice is just wonderful to listen to. That man knows how to tell a good story. We all had such good chemistry that I ploughed ahead with the same team on every episode. This wasn’t the plan at all, but something just clicked in recording. I’d have been a fool to ignore it.

Then, there’s the experts on Doctor DILF. It’s been a joy to chat with them and to listen back to them speaking so eloquently on their own field of expertise. Their passion for their subjects really shines through, and I thank them from the bottom of heart for their time and effort. Together with Doctor DILF: Extra Length, I hope that you, the listener, will gain multiple perspectives on the issue of the week.

Take what will (most likely be the) Episode One of each podcast, for example. There’s Joe Langley, a personal trainer, talking us through how we engage with gyms in later life. This is followed by counsellor Scott McKellar discussing the mental health side of gym environments from an older gay and bisexual male perspective. Then, there’s me, John, and James in Doctor DILF: Extra Length discussing body image and our own experiences with physical exercise. That’s five different perspectives on the same subject over two podcasts. Incredible. That is why Doctor DILF is a team effort and I’m eternally grateful to everyone involved or who has given me advice.

It exemplifies what I set out to do with this podcast from the very beginning - to provide evidence-based food for thought with depth for us - older gay and bisexual men. We’re a clever and savvy bunch, and I think in this age of soundbites and vacuous celebrities, we deserve intelligent media tailored for us.

You might not agree with all of the perspectives put out there, or you might think we’ve missed out something vitally important to you. This is the reason for the #DoctorDILF hashtag - to get you involved in the conversation. All I ask is that you be respectful of others. We may not agree on everything, but we have to stick together… now more so than ever.

On this note, I have a favour to ask of you, the listener. Please bear with me with technical things. I’ve never been a techie and I’m learning things on the fly - and very rapidly! If there are jarring variations in sound quality, then that’s down to me, and I aim to iron these difficulties out for Series Two. Especially since I got my new lovely microphone. It lights up and everything. It’s GORGEOUS! Perhaps I am a techie after all and I just never knew it?

Series One is experimental by its very nature. I am letting it grow organically, allowing it to find out what it wants to sound like rather than to force it into a shape that doesn’t suit it. Does going out and about work? Is it better being a studio-based show? Who should be on it? My intention was to have recorded demonstrations of activities… they may well still happen, but for Series One, they’ve fallen by the wayside. Instead, you can hear me en route to meet Joe and the sound of my rusty old banger Bessie II. Lucky you.

This approach has paid dividends so far, notably in the above example with Doctor DILF: Extra Length. The unexpected thing I am most pleased with, though, is the laughter. OMG, we laugh such a lot! And that includes the experts. It’s so nice to hear media where people laugh in common recognition! Also, the wonderful things my colleagues bring to the table I had never thought about - listen out for my penny drop moments…

Most importantly, even in its embryonic stage, Doctor DILF is encouraging me to get my arse off the sofa and get out there. I’m going for more walks and I’m going to the gym more. The podcast is already doing me good. Doctor DILF is already enriching my life, and I hope it does the same for you too.

Look after each other and keep talking,

Simon x

Doctor DILF - the origin story

The idea to do a podcast about older gay and bisexual male health didn’t come all at once. The Doctor DILF podcast is the next step on a very long road which began a decade ago.

Back in the 2010s, I was working in a care home. It was a job I loved and, after a late-stage career change, I had found my true calling. Suddenly, I was doing work that actually mattered. Dementia care and palliative care can be back-breaking labour over long shifts, but if it’s your vocation, then it’s all worth it.

Preserving the dignity of your residents as they face the end of their life is an honour, and I often say that holding the hand of the dying was one of the most important things I will ever do. It was a privilege to provide the residents with the best care and respect I could possibly give them.

It was while working at the care home that I asked myself the question, “What will my older age look like as a gay man?” This thought led me back to education after a gap of more than a decade. A diploma turned into an undergraduate degree. A masters was followed by a doctorate, all in the pursuit of that one question - what lies in my future and the future of people like me?

During my doctorate study, I found out that older LGBTQ+ people are diverse, full of life, and interest. They are often independent with passions and careers and sex lives. Yet, beyond the confines of academic study, they were often being overlooked in society through the double whammy of being older and being LGBTQ+. Doubly invisible.

The study turned into a book (which you can find here) and numerous talks where I was a guest speaker and expert panellist at universities, conferences, charities, and events including at a government thinktank. Yet still, I had the feeling that all my hard work was going nowhere fast. I was preaching to the converted. What’s the point of research if it doesn’t do some good?

Older LGBTQ+ people deserve to be heard and deserve resources. In my study, I was determined to amplify their voices untainted by outside interests in a noisy, increasingly hostile, world. As such, a podcast seemed like the next logical step - a podcast where older gay and bisexual men have the chance to ask questions of experts themselves.

So, why the focus on older gay and bisexual men in particular?

Well, in the world of research, there’s a thing called an “insider researcher”. That’s someone who studies their own population. However, we can belong to more than population at a time but it’s impossible to bridge all of the LGBTQ+ rainbow all at once in one person.

Ultimately, I don’t feel that I can authentically say that I can speak for people with whom I share little or no characteristics. It would be like me portraying a trans person on stage when there are wonderful trans people waiting in the wings ready with their own songs. I agonise a lot over ethics - can you tell?

However, this does not preclude future subjects seeing the Doctor DILF project branching out. Right now though, it’s early days. Let’s get the root system steady before we blossom. I’m starting small with Doctor DILF but from little acorns, mighty oaks grow.

There is another reason. The advice when conducting an academic study is to go niche. Be really specific. So, I’ve taken that ethos and gone niche here, incorporating my reasons above. During my study, I found commonalities among older gay and bisexual men that I really understood… because of course I did, being one myself. They say to “write what you know,” and this tallies with the points I’ve made above. Again, it’s that authentic voice.

Finally, I want to provide you - the listeners - with evidence-based information that is actually helpful. There is a lot of bollocks out there on the internet with vacuous and self-serving influencers selling us snake oil. Then there’s the manosphere guys and their toxic ideologies. Sod them.

I want Doctor DILF to be the very opposite to the internet con artists - a fact-based podcast with experts. I want Doctor DILF: Extra Length to provide comfort for you through “Oh yeah, I do that!” recognition and an interactive conversation where you shape the future of the series. Yes, we will tackle difficult subjects, but let’s have a laugh too!

As things progress, I do hope to start selling Doctor DILF merchandise and to attract advertisers. A guy’s got to pay the rent, after all. However, I will never let harmful products or companies to be associated with Doctor DILF. That’s a promise.

In the meantime, I do hope you enjoy the podcasts. Keep in touch using the #DoctorDILF hashtag on social media.

Let’s get talking!